Ceilings and Floors

Ok, so I have this theory of ceilings and floors... I think that everytime you are in a relationship the relationship has a floor of what is expected by each party and their is a ceiling given to what someone can do. This always makes kicking it difficult because you can often get caught in a situation where your floor was the other man's ceiling. There is nothing more annoying that when you get absolutely no credit for shit that the last man couldn't do... It's like if she was dating a broke dude, then she was happy when he copped that $80 dinner, but if you are not broke and you regularly spend $150, well that ain't shit and she won't give you the same amount of credit for that $80 until you spend $400.

That, in a nutshell, is the problem with the game. Credit just does not exist. I wish I could explain to folks what I go through without just bitching at the game. Let me tell you why dudes get frustrated, we go through a lot of bullshit for hook ups, or finding new spots, or the ability to entertain... You get on lists, get V.I.P., but none of that shit matters, cause what I have found is that most girls don't know how much it costs to kick it. I have honestly had people that I have spent like $200 a month on casually, say that it ain't shit. I have gotten groups of 6 into parties free sometimes when I'm not even there. I have bought all of her friends drinks whenever I see them whether she is around or not, but that doesn't matter either. And that is how the game works. See once you establish some shit as a floor you will never get credit for it. Credit of course becomes frustrating when you get stuck in conversations about the state of the union, and after your good and hard work that you thought was impressive you find out that you are considered fairly run of the mill. Now, I have had conversations about the exes so you know you are not universally run of the mill but where you are standard is that you live on your floor with occasional reaches towards the ceiling. I have actually been told that if I invite someone on one of my hook ups it should not mean shit to them because it was "free." This of course ignores that nothing is actually free and that I always could have taken someone else. Basically the rule is just don't expect there to be any recognition that we are talking about different floors and ceilings.

This is a difference between men and women I think. Men have much more of a universal floor and ceiling than one that is specific to the woman. This does not mean that men can't take a woman for granted but there is some credit for a lot more basic shit in my opinion. Like most dudes give you that jump credit for faking like you are willing to pay on date three, or actually taking me out once, or offering to cook. Basically anything that shows that $400/month when it is not a car note is not a throw off expenditure from your monthly accounts. Hell shit is currently so much realer with the $4 gas... It's a delicate balance, you don't want to wine about the game, but it is what we all hate about the game. I guess the honorable thing is we just don't do anything about it. Mostly because in the end I know I have been a low ceiling negro in my past. Yet, that does not make it less frustrating while you play through it.

In the end I have learned that if you want better luck i the future you need to understand a woman's past ceilings and floors. If your floor is too much higher than her last ceiling you may want to reconsider you future. You may thing you can handle it, but the pressure is hard when you can picture the dude that hit it for a cheesburger when you are paying for lobster... (crude? yeah... But its the game)