So this weekend I was doing one of my myspace hobbies which was blog surfing. I love blog surfing, just because you can see what random people are thinking. Of course as usually I bumped into the long diatribe of men vs. women blogs and I was struck by one very sad question. What is the deal with all of these college educated woman dating dude's that ain't about SHIT.?!?
I mean really, you will be reading a long and this girl has a master's and a job and is pretty much holding it down, talking about she needs to date a dude that can hold a job for more than 6 weeks. Huh? Talking about how she need a dude that wears more than White T's... Wha? Talking about how they need they dude to shape up and not be the type to embarrass them at a work function.
Ok, so the question is where the fuck are y'all girls hanging out/ Hell I know everyone ain't lawyers, and everyone don't like lawyers, but come on there has got to be some middle ground between Harvard and Harold Washington College. I mean shit. I know the statistics but if you are telling me that a woman with a master's degree can't do any better than a high school drop out I have got to say bullshit. Being flexible means your college degree with some college and a job. Your Masters with college. Schools that are ranked differently. But when your standards are low enough to just say someone who is not going to show their natural ass in front of your boss, I think you are setting yourself up for long term disappointment.
I mean its surreal. I go to spot after spot and I swear it seems to me like the Million Man march in that club. And yeah some of the dudes are corny, and some are assholes, but hell, they are working. They know how to use a fork. They can read. That has got to be better that what some of these women say they are dealing with. And yeah I have heard the whole "educated black men are too difficult, too arrogant." I say that is the same type of bullshit like educated black women are too difficult. Man up. Here is a fact, I know quite a few brothers that started dating their current girl planning to just run through it and be done. But no, shorty had that master strategy. Through a combination of subtle punches and counter punches they tamed some of the mightiest egos out. Basically they put the work in for what they wanted. Not saying y'all all got to want the same thing, but if you really wanted a dude on your level you could make that happen. It's like the Art of War, most battles are won and lost before you step on the field. So stop whining about people being difficult and step your game up, or maybe you're the one that doesn't belong here... (just a thought).
Basically I guess my question is what happened to the middle ground, why is it that people seem to always want perfection, but when they decide to settle its all about the first cute smile. and honestly it's not just the blogs that put this in my face. It's about the fact that I know with any girl I meet before I can give her too serious of a thought I have GOT to see her exes. No matter what she is saying right now, if I am too different from her exes then we just prolly aint going to work. Now this is not meaning your ex had to go to an Ivy or law school. Not at all, But basically, if all you normally date are dumb wack thugs, and your favorite date is usually cruising around stony island on those dubs, and smokin one, then we just ain't going to make it. If we have no similarities personally in how we kick it. See I got boys who haven't finished college but we are still very similar. That I can deal with more than a dude who has the exact same degrees as me, but is just funadamentally different. The fact is that some people are just mutually exclusive. You can't really like me and like him, so my thought is that if you used to date a couple of hims that you can't like me. The same thing is true with women. If all of your man's exes are quiet and demure, and you are (let me say) vibrant and opinionated chances are y'all are not going to work out unless he had his 'come to jesus' moment.
The issue is that at some point there has to be some sort of pattern recognition. You can't keep running around bitching because McDonald's isn't serving you a dry aged Prime Ribeye. You need to figure out you are in the wrong restuarant. and if you can't afford the other restaurant, then maybe that ain't what you want. But it doesn't mean you gotta go back to bitching about McDonalds, it just means that maybe you should check out that hot mid priced restaurant. Basically figure out where you want to be and then figure out how to make that shit happen, cause forcing these wack relationships to work if you are lucky will just end you up in divorce court or miserable, if you are unlucky you will only get that trip to the BMC, and I know you don't want that.
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