You ever notice how things look different depending on your perspective? Like how some shit is cool when you know a person and it is an outgrowth of their personality, and the same shit if you don't know them may seem weird. Its like my blog, people get different shit from it depending on if they actually know me, and how well they know me and etc... Along those lines I would like to plea to people that no matter how much some fucking relationship or self help guru tries to tell you that it is best to be yourself and comfortable up front, DON'TCHUBUHLEEVE IT!!!! That shit just really ain't true. Case in point, I was reading my homegirls blog and she was talking about dancing with this dude in the club and Danity Kane "Showstoppers" came on. Dude got charged like "That is my song" and singing along with the "oh oh ohs." Now um, yeah, considering how much of the downlow and shit is going on in this world one has to take advantage of context clues in making decisions. Now nothing is wrong with liking Danity Kane, hell I like the song, but um, if I am trying to talk to a girl I sort of prefer to stay mainstream so she can KNOW in her head I am straight before I start sending mixed signals.
Not saying you have to let her come in your car and you are blasting that new Kill a Nigga Twice: The Mixtape. But you must be aware. Don't believe me? aiight. Ladies, if you meet a dude y'all talk and he offers you a ride or you are there when he drives off or he picks you up on a blind date and he's got an Anita Baker cd playing, are you really comfortable? Yeah I thought not. I mean honestly I know dudes may be trying to set the mood, but I can understand concern to the dude just randomly rolling to some sweet shit, and I do it. Same deal, or worse, if its like when I was waiting in line at the house of Blues and saw a truck filled with SIX (6) dudes blasting ole Johnny Falsetto. The cats saw folks looking at them in disbelief and went around the corner and came back Blasting that Wu-Tang... we was like "too late." You gotta keep it underwraps...
I can't even get into what is and is not permissible because honestly its in the eye of the beholder. I mean I will say that R. Kelly, no matter the song, will get more of a pass with Chicago folks, and that a dude rolling around to Brittney Spears is NEVER ok. The rest of music falls somewhere in the middle. My advice, use your damn radio.
This is the same shit I talk about with drinks. The rules aren't hard and fast and permanent, but first impressions are a mutha. You really can't be mad cause a girl wouldn't talk to you because you were drinking a Pina Colada in the club. I mean I am sure there was a reason, and if you are with your girl/ wife, its all good, but other wise you really need to save the frozen drinks and Midori sours for another occasion. If they put a pineapple chunk in your drink... I would say no... but once again it depends on the audience but just know what you are putting out there.
Same shit with girls... the thing that girls got to keep underwraps are the strange ass habits. Like its understood that everyone has strange habits, I mean we all have quirks. But the same way that women are scared of men on the downlow, dudes are scared of women that are REALLY crazy. See the general rule for all of this is that whatever you do when you first meet someone the expectation is that it is going to get worse. So if you are talking to yourself on the first date, dude figures the house is going to get burnt down. That same dude that thinks your habit of chewing napkins is cute now would have been freaked out on the first date. That dude who understands that sometimes you laugh randomly about a joke you heard a week ago would have thought you were bordering on having a disorder if you didn't hold that shit underwraps. The fact that all things being equal you would prefer to never drink from a yellow straw is fine with your friends, but if you can't hold that shit underwraps with new people you must accept the fact that people will believe that you are fucking nuts. It's really all perspective though. (*Because I love my friends I am not using anyone's real quirks so if this really is your issue I apologize, I was just trying to make a point... don't kill me psycho, oops I mean sweetie :o)
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