So I just ended up in a conversation about foreplay... Like foreplay is an idea of something that can just end. It really did illuminate certain things. First of all, when it comes to certain shit, girls need to just acknowledge they are on some bullshit. certain things don't make sense. I will say this, its called foreplay... that means its before something. Not the thing itself. I was shocked because I sat in a room full of girls who seemed amazed that I believed that the main point of kissing is to lead to sex...
So in that vein I feel the need to explain once and for all, that yes in most cases, dudes would like to have sex. There is not a lot of interest from a grown ass man of making out with you for the sake of making out with you. I mean he may not pout, or whine, or whatever, but no grown ass man is happy just making out. Hell that is blueballs like a mutha, and them shits hurt. I mean seriously, what is the point? It's like stretching for the sake of stretching... somewhere there should be some real sport being played if you are exercising. It is a warm up for goodness sakes.
Think about it this way, how does any make out session end? you don't spend two hours kissing on somebody and then be like "whew, ok that was enough, I am satisfied, I will leave now." Hell to the naw, I know every one of those night I have ever had ended like "ok, you better get out of here before I do too much." and me trying to find some cold shower that night... It's not a good look, that is why men figured that they needed to have cut offs so they didn't have those 4am nights.
Problem is that girls like the attention, sometimes they just want to make out, sometimes they just want a warm body around but they don't want to do too much. and how do they justify the not being upfront about what they are on? by saying shit like "dude won't make out with me if he knows there is no sex at the end." Is that really a reason to hide shit? cause you won't get what you want? wow... that is real deep. I men my thing is this, just be up front, if no sex is jumping off, say that, let the dude make his own decision. Yeah he may think he can change your mind but fuck it, that is not your problem. You were upfront about it. Not like this will really change shit, but damn... just let it be said that you are on notice that your dude ain't happy. He make take it, and I can sort of respect it if you figure you will let a dude suffer in silence until he mans up about what he wants, but at least don't feed me the bullshit like you thought you were doing right.
It's dangerous to play with the game of expectations. This is honestly one spot where I think men and women are just completely different. I have never met a guy that agreed with foreplay for the sake of foreplay. I mean you can like it, there can be tons you like about it, you can spend a lot of time on it, but the point of it all is to end in sex for the dude, that is that. We have learned that since we are just not in control of how it works that we have to accept whatever speed the woman is moving at but that does not mean that he has accepted his plight as sensible. It just means he has to protect himself from wasting too much time or getting frustrated to the point that he really messes himself up later...
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