To go on the list of things that I thought that everybody knew but apparently they don't.
It's not what you say, it's how (and when) you say it.
What do I mean? well it's like this... sometimes when people are in relationships they have disagreements, they may argue, they may get a little hysterical, who really knows however sometimes when they are talking all that shit and getting annoyed they are always aware that they do not want to leave their current situation. No matter what they may say. However ladies, I will tell you, before you talk too much shit to some man that is not your Husband or fiance... Take a look in the mirror. Cause if you are not looking good you should keep your mouth shut.
Please believe it, see, as a man, we are basically shallow and short-sighted and so short of a marriage which would cost us money to leave, or an engagement where we have already ponied up for a ring, if you get to talking all that big stressful shit while you are busted, its REAL easy for us to leave. See fact is that most people stay in relationships partially because of the person, but also partially out of a question of how easily can I do better? Can I really get a better you in a minute? If a person believes that the answer is yes, then my good sir or madame you will be gone...
Practically, this means that if you roll up on your man and y'all aint had sex in a while and you don't cook ever, and your hair is undone and you are wearing that old sweatsuit cause you have had a cold for the past three days and you are all swollen and messy. Do not pick this as the time to lambast your man's lack of ambition. You will be alone faster than you can say oops. Hell he don't give no fuck, he can't remember what you used to look like or even what you may look like tomorrow, but right now he knows that he can get someone hotter than you are looking at this exact moment that is not stressing the shit out of him so its an easy decision.
This goes the same way for the dudes though. If you are out with your girl at dinner, and you guys are having a great time, the bill comes, you pick up the check, and your credit card(s) get declined so your girl has to pay. Hey, it's cool, I mean there is no judgment, but just to be safe you better shut the fuck up for the rest of the night. I mean you can't get buck about anything broke ass. I mean straight up, I have never met a woman, and don't expect to meet a woman that is going to allow a man that she has to support to talk shit to her. I don't mean makes more money than, I mean she is supporting your ass. She should claim you on her taxes as a dependant. Guess what? she is not going to treat you as an equal cause you are not her equal... She can afford dinner, You, on the other hand, can not. Equality is all out the door. If its a temporary situation its cool, fix the problem tomorrow and just be cool for the night. If it is a permanent situation, your broke ass needs to go to work because you are too poor to be in a relationship where you are anything other than a "kept" man. Whatever you decide is cool, just don't be surprised if your girl is tossing your shit outside after a minor argument right after you have flexed your poverty for the people.
See, shit has to happen from a position of strength, and trying to pretend like certain things don't exist will not help you get anywhere in this world. So the next time you just feel that pressing need to check your man on some annoying ass habit of his, just run to the bathroom, take off the doo rag, make sure that the shirt you are wearing is not just a cute shirt, but looks cute on you... and maybe throw on some heels to be safe. Unless you really do want to gamble with your situation and if that's the case, Sleet always says Double down...
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