I go out a fair amount, so I meet a lot of people. Of course I don't recognize/ remember a lot of folks, sometimes I will try to play it off but sometimes I am just too tired to go that far. But what do I hate? I hate when I introduce myself to a dude and his response is "You've met me before." What the hell am I supposed to say in response to that one? I mean who the fuck says something like that without some greater purpose. It is obvious if someone is introducing themselves to you that they don't remember you. what's worse is that you remember them so now you feel insecure because you gave them more thought than they gave you. I get it, it hurts, but damn homie keep that whining shit to yourself.
Which gets to my main point, at some point we got too many whining ass dude in this world, or as I call them Bitch asses... Its a stark hybrid of mal adapters who had a bad reaction to women's liberation. They accepted equal women when it comes to giving up responsiblity but still want to swagger and gain the deference like men of old. Ok, basic point, in the old days, Men got deference because women did not work. The man understood that his job was to make sure everyone could eat and be happy and safe and if that mean he had to have 3 jobs and a heart attack when he was 50 that is what he had to do, cause he was a man. Now a days we live in a whole different world. I mean hey, I understand the whole pimp school "break-a-bitch" mentality... I do, I'm from the Chi I get it, but you have to differentiate between pimping and when you like a chick. You can't expect a woman that you like to take your bullshit and then call her out for expecting to be treated right and not thinking you are stupid... its a bad look.
For instance the whole Gold digger thing is how cats got over. Girls take so much cheap shit so they wont be called a gold digger, yet realistically the fact is that a woman with a good job is naturally going to be more expensive. I mean hell, if you girl is making six figures and y'all go to a restaurant she prolly wont pick the cheapest thing on the menu, cause she can afford what she wants so she will get it. If you can't afford it your dumb ass should have got on the internet before you picked this spot to make sure you could afford it. How you gonna get mad cause the woman thought that you could afford what she could afford? I mean yeah I am an advocate of the fact that there is a difference between buying one meal and two, but when I see cats mad cause the girl didn't order the chicken at the steak house I have to wonder what is wrong with cats.
But its not just dates... the Bitch ass spreads all over. We have a entire generation of whiny ass men who think they are hard. Sensitive thugs, who want you to respect them as MEN while they remain constant fuck ups. Then they want to blame historical discrimination for why they are fuck-ups. Look, I know I am hard on cats, but these are the same sweater wearing fools that run all of these black mentoring programs who teach boys dumb shit like its alright to cry and put forth this image of black man hood which is basically some Tavis Smiley ass fool with razor bumps shirtless holding a baby and reading poetry, while forgetting that your real job is to raise and protect that child and give him a roof and options. The Black child doesn't need hugs. He needs to be able to compete. He needs to understand that no matter how bad a hand you have in life you still have to play it or fold. It's not sentimental, its not even nice, but its real.
Finally my main pet peeve from these cats are the ones that give me the heartfelt conversations about how they are going to stop dating Black women because they are "too difficult." Now I will be the first to tell you that every woman sure ain't worth it, and a lot of these people are not all good. However, can you really expect a woman to defer to you if you would get her pregnant and work to hustle the system to not pay ANY child support? I mean damn, if a woman deferred to half of the dudes she messed with she would be dead depending on those cats. Now realistically this is a 2 way problem. As Katt Williams said, "I suggest you stop fucking with Bitch ass niggas..." so true so very true. Whe the cat you are messing with is just so sensitive to every perceived insult and starts pouting at the drop of a dime you need to reasses what exactly it is you like about dude. I mean honestly, if professional sisters are really that willing to take care of someone holla at your boy if you make enough money... at least I can cook. ;o) My point being that when it comes to "difficult" women, most of them will defer if you step up and prove worthy of the trust. I mean hell most folks regardless of race or gender would love to be taken care of if they know things would work out. The world is big and complex and cold and one less thing to think about is always a good thing. But you can't sign that responsiblty off to someone who can't take it, and unfortunately for some of these dudes out here they need to know that if they want to big piece of chicken, and the big chair in the house, its because everyone knows that if need be you will find away to make the ends meet and if someone threatens the fam you will kill a wild boar with your bear hands. That's the job brother. Yeah being a man sucks, but what you gonna do?
exactly, Man Up... or as I say "Check yo bitch"
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