The scariest thing about going around in the world is when you sit back and you realise exactly how much basic dysfunction most people have in their lives. Not to say that I don't have any because I definitely have my issues, and for the most part I don't begrudge the right of anyone to have their little quirks. I mean basically that is what makes you into an actual person, however, there are certain things that have come to be almost universally accepted as normal in life that makes me figure that I am destined to be on the outside looking in...
One thing that came out to me was being at the John Legend concert. (Side note, that show taught me that there is no musician that I am actually a fan of. Even R. Kelly, I just aint about to scream my head off cause some grown ass man is about to sign a song... naah) Basically at one point in the show John starts talking about his cheating songs, and how he had to cut down on that cause girls will get you back. At this point the women started cheering, which reminded me about the number of women I will hear talking about if their man cheats on them they will cheat back. WTF? That is about the most irrational shit in the world. Maybe its just me but if the person you are in a relationship with cheats on you and you find out, you have two choices, you can stay or you can go. If you stay, that doesn't mean u have a free pass to cheat, if it did, what kind of relationship are you in anyway?
It's like this radio show I was listening to, a woman called in and said that right before she got married, like the week before she bumped into her ex and slept with dude. Now she was wondering if she should tell her man. (Side note 2: my answer to this question is hell no, keep that shit to yourself, but I digress) Anyway people started calling in the radio station talking about how yeah they fall in bed with their ex every now and again even though they got a man, and they don't really see the big deal. Word? So basically, why are these people together? I mean if cheating doesn't matter, and you fight all the time, why are you "together"? I mean you can definitely get sex out of relationships so what's the deal? Its dysfunction, but the problem is that its not just "them" it is the people that you are around everyday.
Finally on the cheating thing they were showing the Today show or something about cheating getting so out of control and the growth industry of detective agencies who will follow your significant other to see if they are cheating... Ok, now this should be easy but just in case I will let you know. If you are at the point that you feel the need to spend your hard earned money on having someone follow your man or your woman around to see if they are cheating, you relationship is already fucked... It really doesn't matter what the detective finds. I mean come on, once you are hiring help you don't trust the person, and well its prolly for a reason, right or wrong, but if you have that little trust your relationship is already broken. Nothing that a detective does or does not find is going to put trust in your set up. And its the trust that is more important than the actual is he or isn't he.
But these are the little differences in expectations that make interactions problematic. If you think something is normal that I think is absolutely insane we will never see eye to eye.
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