It came upon me almost out of nowhere. I found myself suffering through way too many of the similar conversations with boys and girls about liars, and hurt feelings, and bad intentions and mixed signals, and I remembered the great quote from the "Go-Rilla" about friends with benefits, which was basically "Of course she lied to you, but no more than you lied to yourself." Man that is that good gospel if nothing else is and you figure out that this in a nutshell is the problem, we lie too much, not just to each other but to ourselves.
In that vein I will admit it, sometimes, I know the shit that I am doing is wrong, but I do it anyway. Do I have a good reason? Yes, I think so... my reason is "Because I want to." I mean yeah usually folks drop all types of psycho babble around this and about that, and I am in no way saying that all my interactions with the opposite sex are on some bullshit, but honestly, sometimes, I just aint right. And you know what? I am not going to stop either. See I figure that there is no point in my lying to you because hey number 1, what is the point of lying in general, and number 2, it's not like honesty ever stopped a girl from doing some dumb shit, why? because it was what SHE wanted to do.
I mean, isn't that the big deal with fuck buddies anyway. A Man says he just wants to have sex, and the girl says ok, she is cool with that. they guy figures that she is not cool with it because she is really giving strong signals that she is not, and the guy on the otherhand says he just wants sex but says it while holding flowers and candy and after giving a speech about how he has been hurt and wants to move slow. Now, the fact is that both are on some bullshit. The guy knows he is sending the wrong signal, and that the girl is not down, this is likely going to end bad. On the otherhand the girl knows she is likely pretty obviously lying, but she also knows that a man that says (even if he dont REALLY mean it) that he just wants to bone is not good relationship material. Still they both get involved convincing themselves that everyone has the best intentions and it blows up in the face. Why? Because the guy figures that he wants some ass, and actually not just ass, he wants the companionship and some of the pros of a relationship, like some cooking, a breast to lay on while you watch tv, and a nice smelling apartment, just not the negatives of guilt for getting with that big booty girl at the club that night, or the stress of where u at phone calls and shit like that. Meanwhile the girl figures, she can convince herself that she is gonna change this dude, because she ain't doing shit else right now, and a few months of relationship activity is better than none so we all pretend that it is going to work out. Plus hey, while this dude is hemming nad hawing, you might get a few free meals and some shit fixed around the house so let's make it happen.
And that is the point, every relationship we get in we do not think is going to make it long term, and every relationship we are in we don't leave as soon as we KNOW that this is not that forever shit. Are we playing with the other person? Maybe, but honestly they are prolly playing with us too so its aiight. And even if it's not, what are you really going to do, be bored? Shiiit, I won't... :o)
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