Normally I don't topic my posts cause they are random but this time I wanted to make sure that I was talking about socio-economic class in dating or relationships which is the last place where it seems to be okay to be prejudiced. (Yeah I know that people are face prejudice because of class all of the time, but it's usually hidden or at least lied about.) I mean you constantly hear people in their descriptions of the perfect mate, educated, must have a job, own crib etc... No one wants gold diggers or cheap dudes, and that is all considered if not fine than at least acceptable. My question of course is, how pervasive is it? and basically is it really wrong?
I figure that it sort of falls into different categories, there are the extremes, well bred, well educated, rich or well employed individual who has been exposed to all that society has to offer, dating a grade school drop out, 3 generations homeless person who is prone to violence, and never clean. I think all except the most PC of us would agree that does not make sense, But what about the smaller but still substantial differences. Two people with professional careers, though one was born with money and educated for generations and one was the only person is his/ or her family to get through college. There are likely going to be some fairly substantial issues in their general perceptions of the world... should they take that into account before they get started in a relationship? Or if you are one of these good grad school educated members of the Hillman Alumni association (A concept that I LOVE btw) how different in terms of sociao economic or education background can someone really be before you just can't really take them serious anymore.
I think about this mostly because I ended up in a series of conversations with multiple girls that I figure to be fairly intelligent and together, who have recent stories about dating cats that are pretty damn ignorant. Or even if I don't want to say ignorant let me say not together, at least not in the way that many of my friends are. Now I know, that professional men, particularly black men are supposed to be so egotistical and what not, but does that mean that it is really sensible to start dating cats wholesale without jobs, or prospects with grammar so bad that it actually gives you a headache. (that's pretty much a quote) Or do you really think that those sorts of things are superficial? Can my big time lawyer or banker people REALLY see themselves in a long term relationship with the person from McDonald's. Can Ms. PhD really see herself dating the 32 year old College drop out that is still swearing he gonna be the next Puff even though he has never produced a hit record?
Or is it even deeper than money and more about exposure. Can the couture wearing person date someone who makes real good money but shops at Target for clothes? Can someone who follows restaurant openings really date someone whose idea of the nicest restaurant is Bennigan's? Hell to seem less pretentious would you date someone who would sign you up to be a guest on Maury for a free trip to New York? At what point are these little differences that are nothing but shallow reasons to stay apart, and when are they the sort of major issues that preclude a couple from being "equally yoked?"
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