I am really still recovering from the weekend to really talk about it but I will post about July 4th once I have had a minute to really break it down into reasonable categories. However, since I try to answer commands I figured I would talk about another issue which is the concept of high maintenance vs. Low Maintenance women.
Now first of all, if you have ever discussed this topic, you may think you know all there is about it, unless you have actually gotten deep in the topic with someone willing to argue the other side. Usually that is not the case. You get a bunch of dudes around and they bitch about high maintenance women, and girls claim they aren't very high maintenance so its dropped. however if you discuss the topic more you will usually find that people don't think the same thing when they say High and low maintenance? I mean is a woman high maintenance because she wears all designer clothes and has expensive taste, and has to keep her hair and nails did all the time? See I don't think so, I think she is just expensive. If you give her a stack of money, you can pretty much ignore her and that is about as little maintenance as I have ever heard of. On the flip side, the regular girl who is cool with the Harold's and the DVD as a date is not exactly low maintenance if you get 12 calls/ texts/ and emails a day, each one from a different personality. Now its not to say that high or low maintenance is bad. (I actually kind of like high maintenance women, some times, problem is they would have to also be low stress and therein lies the rub... but I digress...)
Upon further inspection what you find is that with dudes, high maintenance and low maintenance is usually a place holder for easy or not? Once again, to be clear easy is not a moral judgment it is more a statement on the dudes comfort zone. ie. if you are a dude that spends every weekend in the club buying bottles, if you let a girl come with you while you do what you were doing anyway for a couple of months and her conversation was cool, she may consider it that you put it work but for you that was easy. No real deviation from the regular. On the same token, even if a girl would have sex on the first date, if the first date required you to bust in the projects and steal a police squad cruiser so you could prove you were bout it when you are a nice professional young man, I would consider her not easy, it all depends on the person. Even beyond that, stuff being easy is not necessarily wrong. (If I have to work at my job, why would I want to work at home? but alas I digressed again...)
The point is, that in general dudes are lazy and don't want to get out of their comfort zones. Usually that goes along with what is generally considered to be a low maintenance woman, even that woman actually requires more time and maintaining of the relationship, than the stuck up chick.
Why does this matter at all? Basically because I am sick of being around a "cool" chick, whose attempt to prove that she is down is that she is cheap, down to earth, and will coach you trying to get on chicks. As a general rule, any male friends you have are not fooled, they like you for another reason beyond you being just so cool. And it gets even worse when you run into bougie fellows like myself and try to connect with me on some grimey shit that I am not (publicly ;o) on....
Stated simply, usually a man's ideal woman is the cute to fine woman who thinks that however he wants to be is the sexiest thing in the world. It may not be what he is yet, but when he gets there she will be charged, and from that point on he can keep her quite happy and as a bonus he wont have to do much. If that works out, you can subsist on a diet exclusively made up on West Jamaican mango water and Peruvian tulips, while only taking baths in butter milk from virgin cows, and refusing to wear any clothes that was sewn by a right handed person and he will be telling all his friends you are the most low maintenance girl he ever had.... Cause its easy....
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