I was listening to GCI on the way home and I heard a commercial for Match.com promoting their association with Dr. Phil. I think the commercial went, "In the competitive world of dating you need to get all the advantages..." and then went on to describe Dr. Phil as an advantage telling people to focus on dating like they focus on their professional lives. Set goals, follow through, blah blah blah... You listen to this and for some reason it is just not shocking that anyone who takes this advice that seriously is single.
First of all, what exactly is the competitive world of dating? When you go out on a date in there an international body scoring you on ordering technique and table manners... How will he do in the small talk competition? Creativity of the date? Degree of difficulty... oooh he took her to his ex's favorite spot... Or does it mean that people are lined up ready to steal your dates at a moments notice if your game is not consistantly up to par. Hell I wish everytime I took a girl out there was a line of dudes sitting their with credit cards out waiting to one up me by paying tonite. Or what does it mean? I have to get a call back for the next date? and here I am think that the point of the whole thing was sex... silly me. Nah for real though, its exactly that kind of thought that makes dating suck. How about have fun? I mean do i really feel like spending time with a girl that has a power point presentation about why we should be together. Or who brings in references... " John Smith will tell you I make a helluva meal. and Tom Jones will tell you I give the bomb head..." Or even worse researches you online so they can ask you targeted questions. *Disclaimer* I will admit I am not willy nilly dater boy, I sho run background checks on girls before we hang out because safety is an issue. How would I feel if I go out with a chick, it goes wrong and my car gets blown up when all I had to do was ask my boy who was in college at the same time as her the deal and he can tell me about the 3 other cars she blew up. Same thing with girls. If dude was known in college as MC. Date Rape, that might be good information before you go for drinks with that man.
Back to the topic, to me it also fits in with the articles like in the recent ebony and the convo I had about women making more money than men. Like its funny, I definitely believe that some dudes, just can't deal with a woman that makes more money than them, (For the record that is not me, I would marry a rich woman tomorrow and spend my days in an apron but I digress) however, in a lot of cases that is not the core of the issue. Like, I have been told by women that the man can handle that I made more money than him, it was like no, THAT man's issue was that you never do your hair. Or this dude is intimidated by my intelligence, when the issue is that THIS particular dude thought you were a lame. I mean I know its sad to say and no one wants to hear negative shit, but sometimes, (s)he is just not that into you. That's like me saying that every girl that didn't want to go out with me was intimidated by my Ivy League degree... (because it couldn't possibly be that she thought I was an asshole...) That might make me feel good, and I guess it has happened VERY RARELY, but mostly it would be bullshit... It's like my home girl stace was talking about people getting funny acting after sex mostly cause they spending all they time reading into shit and faking until its safe to change, when they should in fact just be themselves and honest about doing you, and then folks might could have some more fun.
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