Female Friends Pt 2

Ok, i know this took a minute, but working sucks, what can I say. 

Nonetheless, my concept of female friends did get altered because in general while I have to admit that my general motivation for getting to know most of my Black female friends was attraction that wasn't the case with my non-black female friends.  I mean not trying to sound altruistic since most of my non black female friendships are based around alcohol and a shared love of slacking (plus the fact that they pay sometimes...  but I digress) but nonetheless most of my non-black female friends are not folks that I found myself stalling for time on getting up with.  I am not really sure what this means because given time to think about it, none of my non-black female friends are unattractive, so the same rules likely apply its prolly just not as conscious of a decision all the time as I previously though.  This is where I modify my position on cross gendered friendships from figuring that they were all just B.S. to accepting the fact that sometimes people really do believe that there is no more too it, even when there is.  I am sorry, I have not crossed over to the point of believing that you can just see someone and think "This person sure looks friendly."  I am just now more convinced that more (but not all) women are actually telling the truth when they say they think their relationships are purely platonic. 

I mean it’s real easy for people to believe that it is just men with minds in the gutter, but I think that classification simplifies things too much.  I don't believe in soul mates, or the "one" or any of that stuff, but I do figure that emotions are tricky and you can fall in and out of a lot of stuff, and most of the time your "friends" are creations of bad timing more than anything else... 

Last thing I must mention is that I do not think that it works to cross over from being actual friends into a relationship that easily.  As much as I think the friendship is based on B.S. at a certain point you know a person too well and it makes relationships hard if not impossible.  Unfortunately once someone seriously brings it up the friendship is never the same again anyway so you're damned if you do...  Basically the rules are confusing and leads to long half sensible rants, which is why I prefer to let whatever ride and do what it do.