The Enemy Has a Name 2/7/06

And that name is Non-Sex...

Non-Sex is an evil idea, or a concept, or a way of life, I am not sure, but a few girls practice this dark art and here I excpose it in hopes that it does not spread once people are on the look out for it.  I have a few friends who have bumped into girls who practice non-sex and it pretty much all leads to the same feeling at the conclusion...  Hatred, pure and unadulterated...

First, let me explain that no sex is not the same as NON-Sex.  Most Virgins (with the exception of studio virgins, meaning they have done everything but insertion to climax but want to pretend to be pious) practice No Sex, no harm no foul, I mean a man can choose to deal with it or not, no judgment.  But Non-Sex, is a girl that you are more closely dealing with, and sometimes sex has been openly discussed, and it is dangled in front of you, but always held off for either no reason, or more often some psycho reason.  (I have a vibe, intuition, a voice)Non Sex becomes even more frustrating because either vocally, or otherwise (ahem) the girls insinuate that not only would there be sex, but damn it there would be great sex. 

The question then becomes what is the reason for this ploy?  What is it that the female hopes to gain besides frustration which leads to the previously stated hatred?  I am hear to let those know who are considering following the dark arts of Non-Sex as a ploy that it is never a good idea, you may think that you have tricked this man into doing what you want, but men have an amazing ability to take an almost endless amount of abuse to close the deal when they have made up their minds.  A man who has been pushed to the proper point can spend tons of money and time and lies to finally get what he wants and then drop you like its hot.  And in case you were thinking that you had that sunshine and could change his mind understand the issue of expectation.  The longer a man waits and the harder he works the higher the standard that he has for when sex finally occurs. Basically this means that a man you could have whipped after 2 weeks, would think you were trash after two years, that just how it is...

For the fellas I don't really know what to say, If I knew a way to avoid being trapped into frustrating nights of Non-Sex I would let you know, but endlessly for reasons that are hard to understand many of us remain trapped in Non-Sex relationships that cost us way too much in time and sanity...  So basically Good luck...