Ok, so recently I have been doing a lot of criminal law to go with my divorces and child custody, The one thing I have learned is that most people fucked up relationships end them up in court. If they are lucky its civil court and that baby momma drama, if not its criminal court with everything from domestic battery to Murder... yup you heard me right, Murder. All these cases have the same basic facts, the only difference is how each party reacted to things going a bit too far.
What do these relationships have in common? they confused passion for love. I don't mean strictly sex passion, I just mean the thing that will get you all emotional enough to act a good damn fool. Yeah the make up sex may be hot, but your relationship is dysfunctional if passersby who hear your arguments feel compelled to call the police. If you find yourself at Target 5 times a year buying new dishes cause y'all smash them all the time, your relationship is bogus. I am not saying you should never fight, I understand that people have arguments. I understand further that if you will never fight with someone you aren't that invested, but just be aware that there has to be a line.
Basically its sad because I see so many couples, particularly in child support and custody cases that NEVER got a long. Just now, I am stuck as a mediator trying to get them to stop fucking with each other long enough to try to keep the poor child out of therapy on the good end and prison on the bad end. Yet no matter what, I meet so many people that act like having knock down drag out fights filled with cusswords and hurtful statements make sense. I mean its all in songs, and in tv and movies about relationships, and having make up sex when your mad, and fighting and cussing and blah, blah blah. I mean honestly, I try my best not to go there, I have had a few people that honestly made me want to try to be as hurtful as possible, or get so hot I was close to flipping out, and that is when I stopped talking to those people. It's not that I thought I didn't care, but I knew we were not compatible, because the highs just aren't high enough for me to have to be that evil or nervous getting my buttons pushed all the time. People act like that means I am anti relationship, I guess I just spend too much time seeing how badly this shit can end up. That's why I am not a fan of folks talking seriously about how their man or woman is crazy, or getting their little stalk on, and the whole nine, cause people these days just aint right... maybe I am wrong but I say try to find someone you want to be with that you don't want to kill, it does not have to be boring if you actually have some shit in common. In may take time, but its worth it I think... either way, be safe people...
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